Home Again, what did we learn ~ By Tom ~

Hello everyone and we hope you have enjoyed the much-abbreviated re-cap of Audrey, Emma and my 28 days on the road.  Hopefully you were able glean just a smidgen of the excitement we experienced along the way.  Then there was the joy of what we discovered about ourselves, each other and the sights and sounds of the places outside our zip code.

After returning from our journey we were exhausted but it didn’t hit right away!  The first couple days we were still riding the wave of adrenaline from constantly being on the go. Then, day 3, we just wanted to sit and do nothing and that is basically what we did (it felt awesome).  It was while sitting we started coming to the realization of the journey we had just returned from.  It wasn’t just the 28 days on the road but also the month prior preparing for the journey.  This is when we started reviewing our notes, pictures and recordings and emotionally un-packing the enormity of traveling 6,500 miles, through 16 states in our 2002 Toyota Camry with our dog, Emma.

If you were to google, which I did after we returned, things like, “tent camping tips, road trips with a dog, or how to survive in a car with your mate and dog” you would see lots of results.  So, for us to think for a second we could add something prophetic to that list would be pure foolishness.  In these google searches I discovered a lot of common sense stuff including, “choosing a route, picking campgrounds, equipment needs, proper dress, menu planning, tips for tent camping with your dog, no one is an island, your individual actions affect who you are with, learn to be grateful or you can stand more than you think”, etc.  The one phrase ending many of the articles was the one I laughed at most “just relax and have fun”.  Duh, I thought the whole purpose of going on a camping excursion was “just relax and have fun”, LOL, LOL.  This however ended up being the most important phrase and one that should be the corner stone of any adventure in life, “just relax and have fun”.  Now, don’t get me wrong.  We had a great deal of fun but it was in hindsight that we realized it wasn’t about the event of the journey but rather the process of preparing for the journey.  Isn’t this true about life in general.  It’s not about the arrival (events) but rather the journey building up to the events (process).  Even though we knew it (common sense) we weren’t necessarily practicing it.

When we returned some friends of ours commented how they could see around week 3 that we were showing signs of fatigue.  As we went back over photos we too could see it.    If you recall awhile back I cited an article by Nicole Lindstrom at Wonderlust.com titled “Living the Van Life: What to Know Before You Go” .  You might be saying yeah, but you weren’t in a van and this is about tent camping going cross country by car?  You are correct, Audrey and I were in a car, along with Emma, our Labrador Retriever, and a lot of stuff (some necessary and some not necessary) crammed inside our Toyota Camry which in many ways included the Lindstrom’s challenges but added some additional ones.  Their points were so on the mark though.  We too arrived at each point tired from the 3 to 5-hour drive, stops along the way to see and capture on camera all the wonderful sights, the many conversations with so many incredible people and recording the audio of them, hiking, setting up camp before dark (or in the dark, lol), taking down camp, showering, maintaining things and on top of it, many hours recording out journey on our website, all multiplied by 28 days.

We laugh now relating to the Lindstrom’s feelings such as “reading felt odd, staying in one place for three days felt luxurious and not knowing what to do with ourselves when we weren’t pushing for the next destination”.    Yes, we were slowly getting tired and didn’t see it or more like didn’t admit it because we were so excited.  There are so many more stories we can and will share about this journey that may cause some to laugh, to think, to shake their head and maybe to do and that is our hope.

So, could we have benefited from doing more research prior to our journey, maybe? Then again, maybe not!  We didn’t read them and survived.  Even if we had read some of the articles most likely we would have blown them off as “what do they know”, lol, lol.  What is the worst that can happen by not reading these articles is nothing?  No matter how much more research and planning we could have or would have done wouldn’t have changed one thought, feeling or action.  The truth is we believed we were prepared and sometimes the only real test of preparation occurs when you are out on the road, miles away from your emotional and physical support systems and you are stepping out in faith, moving forward with your dreams.  For us this journey was about stepping out in faith to pursue one of our dreams.  Hopefully others will reach a similar point in their lives and step out in faith pursuing their dreams?  Life is short, don’t wait.

Hope you stop in again to hear how our journey motivated us to do some other things we perhaps wouldn’t have done.


~ USA Through Our Eyes ~ Stories Told Through Words, Photographs, Videos and Sound

10 thoughts on “Home Again, what did we learn ~ By Tom ~

  1. Whew, we are so glad to hear you say this Madelyn because the feelings you note are real. It took us awhile to see when we returned our energy was still on “go-mode”. Then after two days we crashed. We wondered what was wrong. Then we realized and began giving ourselves permission too feel tired because we had just traveled x hundred miles and encountered the multiple stresses that we don’t think are any big deal but in reality are but suppressed. We have been learning now to relax, breath and to stay in the moment. We often looked at that phrase and used it without practicing it. Now we truly do work at staying in that moment wherever we are. Whether it is driving, being lost, soaking rains or sun shining realizing life is precious and good and we are so blessed. Blessed to be able to do it, blessed to be able to share it and extremely blessed to have individuals like YOU to encourage us.

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  2. I usually return from a trip needing a day (or several) to decompress – and I’ve never been away for nearly as long as the 28 days you guys traveled.

    It took years before I learned to mentally add 2-3 days at the back end to keep my memories “clean” – otherwise part of me was almost sorry I went (even tho’ that feeling was more about slamming myself back into catch-up mode, I rued the fact that it attached itself to what was an otherwise joyful experience.) Coming down from the adrenaline rush can be a trip in itself!

    I love reading/watching those “what to know before you go” and “what we’d do differently” offerings. One thing is clear – experience is the best teacher. Although you now have a great deal of it, everything must be learned anew now that you’ve “upgraded” you traveling digs. Nice not to have to build your canvass home every single night, I’ll bet.
    (Madelyn Griffith-Haynie – ADDandSoMuchMORE dot com)
    ADD/EFD Coach Training Field founder; ADD Coaching co-founder
    “It takes a village to educate a world!”

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  3. I felt the same way when I took an extended drive from California to Colorado – so excited about all the sites to be seen but so exhausted from driving. Just know that I’m planning my first cross country drive from California to Washington, D.C. next summer and your stories have gotten me so excited for the journey!

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